Podcast

Not every marriage is going to survive infidelity, but many people do not know when to end the relationship and move on. Doug and David Feder talk about when to call it quits.

Some of what was addressed includes:

• What percentage of marriages survive an affair?
• When and why should people separate?
• What tend to be the advantages and disadvantages of separation?
• What about staying together for the kids?
• Should the hurt partner ever use separation or divorce as a way to get their spouse to end an affair?
• More!

Doug once again speaks with psychotherapist and infidelity expert, David Feder. This time though, David is the one asking the questions. This is a follow-up of sorts to last month's audio but deals specifically with Doug's experiences.

Some of what was addressed includes:

• The mindset when Doug made the decision to end the affair and concentrate on the marriage.
• How Linda saying "I'm done" was a strong motivator.
• What changes in thinking did Doug go through?
• The importance of talking about the affair related issues AND being ale to come to some sort of resolution.
• How Doug moved from being defensive to being patient and compassionate.
• More!

Doug once again speaks with psychotherapist and infidelity expert, David Feder.

They discuss:

• What the betrayed spouse can do to motivate the unfaithful person to contribute to the healing efforts.
• What are the effects of guilt and shame on the unfaithful person?
• What about narcissism?
• How imperative it is for the betrayed to focus on themselves.
• More...

Doug once again speaks with psychotherapist and infidelity expert, David Feder. Here are some of the highlights of our discussion:

• The questions that need to be answered in recovery
• The Victim - Perpetrator Model of recovery
• The Dual Perspective Model of Recovery
• Which model is best and why
• David's VISION recovery process
• More...