Infidelity is Not a Journey You Should Travel Alone

Infidelity is one of the most challenging of life’s experiences that one can have within the context of a committed relationship. For most, infidelity is traumatic and you may find that you experience emotions such as confusion, anger, rejection and abandonment.

If you are the hurt partner who only recently learned that your partner was unfaithful to you, you are most likely inundated with conflicting thoughts about what to do next. What you do to answer this question is critical as it can and probably will have significant impact on the rest of your life and family.

If you are the hurt partner for whom disclosure came several years ago, you may still be experiencing conflicted emotions, flashbacks and feeling stuck you may be having a difficult time regaining your emotional equilibrium and moving on

Or you may be the partner having the affair who is confused about whether you want to end the affair and recommit to your spouse/partner, or leave your committed relationship and continue your affair. Or you may be the unfaithful partner who wants to have your cake and eat it too and continue in both relationships. What do you do then? Your guilt may overwhelm you, or you may feel numb and feel nothing. Either may be troubling to you and in spite of your efforts you may find yourself at a loss as to what to do.

Affair Counseling is critically important. In most cases navigating through any of the scenarios described above will be challenging at best. The path to recovery often lacks clarity and it is often full of twists and turns. Often emotions vary between feeling good and feeling as though you won’t be able to go on. Friends and family will try to help but their input can often be as confusing as it is helpful.

Affair Counseling will:

• offer the support that is needed
• help you understand what happened and why; and
• help to develop a path to recovery regardless of whether you are the hurt partner or the partner having the affair
  
  

Affair Counseling can help in different ways regardless of whether you are the hurt partner or the unfaithful partner. Affair Counseling will:

• help to understand why the affair happened
• address problems in your relationship if you and your partner decide to work on it
• help you improve your self-esteem
• address issues of betrayal, guilt and/or abandonment
• re-establish your ability to trust again; and
• determine a path towards forgiveness and realizing your personal goals.
  
  

I hope the information included in this website will provide you with some immediate support. Don’t forget that the first 24 to 72 hours after disclosure is the most dangerous and when people can be at greatest risk of personal safety. Developing a Safety Plan as soon after disclosure as possible is critical.

Please review my article on Creating a Safety Plan and draft your own based on the tips included there. You are also invited to contact me for a free 30 minute consult if you think that will be supportive.