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If You Are Cheating on Your Partner, You Are Cheating on Yourself!
If you are cheating then you are a master at validating unacceptable behaviour. You have learned tricks and use them to justify poor choices. In addition you keep secrets about your other life, secrets about choices that are hurtful to the people who are closest to...
The Missing Link to Recovering from an Affair
After discovering an affair, chances are that you are in immense pain. For financial or emotional reasons or both, you cannot afford to be in therapy for years figuring out your relationship issues. You need a quicker process that makes a meaningful recovery possible....
A Lesson Learned from a Spouse’s Affair
Recently I met with a man whose wife had an affair that ended several years ago. It was an honour to work with this couple and they made good progress in therapy. In fact, they can teach us an important lesson. In spite of the progress made, every now and then...
Your Heart Can’t Be in Two Places at the Same Time
In my practice I meet with at least one partner each day who is having an affair and struggling with the decision of whether or not to work on their marriage. I typically ask them to describe their confusion and they almost always embark on a similar dialogue in which...
Live Your Life to the Fullest! Why Not?
If you asked anyone whether they’d like to live their life to the fullest, I expect their answer would be an ethusiastic “yes” (mine certainly would be). But sometimes it feels that a lot of people aren’t trying very hard to make it a reality. I was recently exploring...
Recovery Challenges for the Unfaithful Spouse
In another in my series of talks with Doug from EmotionalAffair.org, we discuss the many challenges that the unfaithful person faces in the affair recovery process, with an emphasis on the differences between unfaithful males and females. We also address...
Getting in Touch with your Own Power
I had a great discussion with Doug from EmotionalAffair.org where we talk about how to find your power using my VISION method. VISION is an acronym I've developed to help betrayed spouses through the recovery process. The session begins with Doug reading an email from...
What Makes it so Hard to End an Affair?
I had a chance to have a great discussion with Doug from Emotional Affair Journey recently about why it can be so hard to stop having an affair. Here are a few things we talk about: What was your experience when you made the decision to end your emotional affair?How...