Involved Partner

As the spouse who is having an affair, you have reached a point where you are wondering what to do next? While your head may be telling you to end your affair your heart is telling you something else and this has left you confused. Do you tell your spouse and if so, how? You feel anger, shame, guilt, or fear and you don’t know what to do with your feelings. You worry about your relationship with your children, feeling frightened that your affair will affect them. You feel anxious about losing the life you have and the security it has given you. You think about how good the affair made you feel, wondering whether you will ever feel that way again with your spouse. You wonder if you will ever be trusted again should you decide to work on your marriage.

Affairs are complicated and eventually everyone who has an affair reaches a point where they need to decide what to do next? You are now at that point. What you do next will have long-term consequences for everyone involved, including yourself. What happens next is not easy to figure out. You have found that there are many questions and few obvious answers. Some of the questions often asked are listed here.

From Discovery to Recovery we understand your needs and appreciate your differences.

Common Challenges
for Involved Male Partners

  • whether you should end and commit to work on the marriage
  • whether you should tell your partner about the affair if they don’t know
  • whether you should tell your partner about your affair if they suspect it?
  • if I tell my partner, what do I tell and how much do I share?
  • you want to tell but you think she won’t be able to handle knowing
  • you’re afraid that your partner will leave you
  • you worry that you may lose everything you have
  • you wonder why you don’t feel shame and guilt. Is this normal?
  • you wonder whether your partner will trust you again?
  • you wonder whether your partner will forgive you?

Common Challenges
for Involved Female Partners

  • whether to tell your spouse/partner about the affair?
  • afraid of how your partner/spouse will react?
  • what to do with your ambivalent feelings?
  • wondering how you can love more than one person at the same time?
  • wondering whether you can reconnect to your spouse again?
  • all you want is to feel loved by someone
  • what do I do with my guilt and shame
  • can he ever trust me again?
  • will I ever be forgiven?

Face-to-Face Counseling

Close Connections provides state of the art face-to-face individual and couple counseling that is designed to meet your specific needs. “From Discovery to Recovery”, Close connections specializes in treating infidelity. We will empower you to take back control of your life.

Remote Counseling

To make it easier for people to benefit from our support and expertise, Close Connections offers remote counseling through videoconferencing. Wherever you live, Close Connections is never far away. All you need is a computer or smartphone and an internet connection. We are only a click away.

Support Groups

Infidelity often results in people feeling isolated and misunderstood. Recovering from infidelity is easier when you are part of a community of people who understand what you’re going through. Close Connections is a community of like-minded people. We offer support groups for the hurt partner, for the participating partner, and for couples.

Emergency Support

We understand that you can be triggered or experience an intrusive thought at any time and a crisis can result. We are responsive and we offer special programmes to ensure that you never have to be alone. Close Connections is here for you when you need us!

What Our Clients Say...

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